Joseph the dreamer, one of the best known stories of the Old Testament, thanks to Andrew Lloyd Webber and Tim Rice, is also a story with which it is easy for us to identify.
Jacob has a large family, two official wives and two concubines, the servants of his wives, who have also borne him children. He has twelve sons in total and possibly a number of daughters – only one is mentioned by name but daughters were not generally counted in a man’s descendants so there may have been more. Jacob is also known by the name Israel and his sons will become the patriarchs of the twelve tribes of Israel in due course.
Joseph is a younger son, born to Rachel after many years of barrenness while her sister and the two serving girls gave birth to their children. Rachel was the wife Jacob worked for 14 years to marry, he fell in love with her as a young man and so her son becomes his favourite child. Given his family history of rivalry with his brother, Esau, you would think Jacob may have had more sense! Joseph does not help the situation either, he brings his father bad reports about his brothers, definitely not a good way to promote sibling harmony!
Joseph has been singled out, not only by Jacob, but also by God; he has dreams and visions which seem to foretell an important role for him in the future, he sees visions which suggest that he will be set up as ruler over his brothers and is foolish (or vain) enough to tell his brothers and his parents about them. Even Jacob rebukes his son for sharing the dreams, although he does not see the danger Joseph is in from the jealousy of his brothers. We noted here the pattern of God choosing the younger members of a family, the small and overlooked, features in this story reminding us that we often judge importance and seniority by quite different criteria than God does. Jacob wonders what the dreams might mean, echoed later when Mary stores up all the things she has seen and heard about Jesus in her heart.
One thing which really stood out from this story was the destructive nature of jealousy.
Jealousy is an ugly emotion. We all feel it from time to time; maybe we hear someone talking about a great holiday they went on while we are struggling to pay the bills, or a friend has a bigger, more expensive car, a nicer house, a more helpful husband and we feel hard done by. We can be jealous of another’s looks, intellect, health, age etc., there are so many ways in which we can hold up our lives in comparison and feel that we have been short-changed or somehow cheated out of something to which we were entitled. As a parent of a disabled child I can be guilty of looking enviously at friends whose nests are emptying and being jealous of their freedom, knowing that will never happen for me. We all know someone who just seems to have it better than us, and that can make us angry and bitter. The terrible thing about jealousy is that it steals joy, it taints everything we have and makes us feel discontented as well as poisoning our relationships with those of whom we are jealous.
Shakespeare called jealousy the “green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on”, when we look through the lens of jealousy all we see is coloured with our resentment and anger; when we live with jealousy nothing we have is good enough, we cannot enjoy anything because we want more or better. The world loves to foster jealousy, advertising is all about making what we have seem inadequate so that we have to buy more stuff, or persuading us that this or that product will give us the figure or face or hair we want and make us the envy of others.
Joseph’s brothers are jealous of the relationship Joseph enjoys with their father and the suggestion that Joseph may be destined for greatness irks them even more. The relationship between Joseph and his brothers is damaged by their envy, they begin to hate him and plot to get rid of him, their bitterness has reached such depths that they are prepared to commit murder. Here is a stark warning for us – if we allow jealousy to take root in our lives we will soon lose our friends, we will be unable to rejoice with them in their victories and our sympathy for them in sorrow will be false because we will be inwardly happy to see them brought low. No relationship can live and grow under those conditions, true friends want only good things for one another, if we love one another we are happy for the success of others and sorry for their troubles, we do not need to measure them against our own victories and failures, for each of us has our own road to travel. Jealousy leads to hatred and Jesus warns us that to hold hatred in our hearts against another is the same as to murder them.
Their jealousy also poisons the relationship the brothers have with their father, Jacob may be a fool to favour Joseph so openly but there is no suggestion that he treats his other children badly. Simeon and Levi almost started a war when they killed the Shechemites and Reuben slept with one of Jacob’s concubines but there is no mention of any punishment from Jacob towards his sons. If the brothers had been able to focus on their own positions with their father, they had no reason to be discontent, they were well provided for and all had their own households within the tribe. The antidote to jealousy is to look at what we HAVE, to count our blessings and to be content with what God has given us. If all our needs are met by our Heavenly Father why do we need to concern ourselves with what other people have? The Holy Spirit can give us strength to take captive intrusive thoughts and deepens our relationship with a God through prayer and praise, when we cultivate an atmosphere of praise and thankfulness there is no room for bitterness to get a foothold.
After Joseph is sold off into slavery, his brothers then have to live with the knowledge that they have caused their father great sorrow, they have to carry the lies they have told with them and it is their lives which are blighted by their actions. When they come to Egypt to buy grain from Joseph they interpret his harsh behaviour towards them as a judgement for their treatment of him, clearly their consciences have not been quiet even though many years have passed.
As I read this story I am reminded again to beware of comparing myself to others, to be happy with what I have and to thank God for all he gives me. The antidote to jealousy is worship. More than this I want to be the kind of friend who will happily rejoice with others without reservation and who can come alongside others in their times of trouble and comfort them in humility and grace, because the greatest gifts God has given me are the friends who walk with me through the ups and downs of life, sharing my joys and sadness as I share theirs without measuring ourselves against one another but with open hearts and hands.

